What's Up with American Males Today?

This morning I was reading the post about Russia’s Prime Minister Vladimir Putin on Lorinov’s Blog located at:

http://roblorinov.wordpress.com/2011/12/02/return-of-the-soviet-union-putin-style/

After reading it I also read some other things about Putin and even though I don’t agree with most of his policies I’ve got to say something for him. He’s a Man! And, he’s a Leader! And that got me to wondering about men and leaders in general. Let me begin with leaders. Take a close look at the picture comparison below. If you did not know either of these two men and had to pick one to be your leader, which one would it be? The dorky looking guy riding the bicycle or the shirtless guy with the rifle?

The dorky looking guy on the bicycle just doesn’t ring as a leader with me. In fact, I’d be unsettled to have him as a leader because, well frankly, he looks like a dork. You know, like one of those guys that ride their bikes through the park with “Geek” written all over them. Personally, he’s not the kind of image I envision when I think about a real leader. In fact, I’d be embarrassed to have him as my leader and, frankly, I’m just that when it comes to Barack Obama. Embarrassed!

And then there is the shirtless guy on the right with the gloves and the rifle. This guy looks intelligent in his face. He projects the image of strength and determination. I bet this guy would be a real challenge in a fist fight. I see he wears a cross around his neck and that tells me that he has some morals and values along with some self discipline. He knows his place in the world and I don’t think he’d be the kind of guy running around making sure everyone knows how “great” he is in his own mind like the guy on the bike would.

The guy on the right obviously is hunting and that tells me he enjoys nature and, in my mind, that’s a good thing. That along with being shirtless and unashamed in the wilderness also tells me that he’s a masculine man and proud of his manhood, not ashamed of it. On the other hand, the guy on the bike looks to me like he might be one of those far too often seen feminized men who are weak willed, indecisive, not really that smart types. He’s obviously riding his bike in a city park and that tells me that the city park is his idea of “nature” even though it was created by fakery and imitation. It also tells me that he like to play thing safe while the shirtless guy tells me he is unafraid to take risks because, frankly, being out in the wilderness is full of risks. What this all comes down to is that I’d pick the shirtless guy on the right as my leader any day of the week over the dorky looking guy on the bicycle. To me, the shirtless guy looks like a real leader while the bike guy looks like a clown and joke.

And that brings me to my second point. Manhood. Masculinity. And just what the hell has happened to the manhood and masculinity of the American male?

I don’t know if you have ever noticed or not buy I see more and more guys looking like their wives today. I watch people in the stores and malls and I’m astounded many times when I see a husband who looks like he could be a male version of his own wife. Is it something genetic? Is it some sort of transformation that some guys undergo as they become more and more feminized?

The white American male, especially, has been deballed. The guy on the right in the pick looks like a stallion while the guy on the left looks like a gelding. I see more and more white males that look like geldings than stallions today and that concerns me. It concerns me because I’m really starting to wonder what has happened to the white American male. Some of the younger ones I have to look at three or four times to determine what gender they are because they look so feminine that I honestly can’t tell them apart from women. That’s alarming in may respects.

In Putin’s Russia there is still a value placed on the masculine male and manliness. In Obama’s America there is not any longer. There used to be but today that just doesn’t exist. American males have been encouraged and taught to let the “woman” inside of them come out. WTH? Surely that’s a joke, right?

This brings me to role models. Where are the masculine manly role models today for the American male? Are they suppose to be those idiots in our televisions shows that act like, well, idiots? I don’t think they are role models at all unless you want to grow up to be a dork. I notice that in almost all T.V. Shows today the while male is portrayed as an idiot, weak, indecisive, emotional, feminized. That’s what we are suppose to become as men? Sorry but I don’t agree with that deplorable “role model” for American males at all. In fact, the males I see on television today absolutely turn my stomach in disgust to no end.

When I was growing up my role models were Superman, Batman, Cowboys, and Soldiers (yeap I’m an army brat). Those were the kind of males I respected and wanted to be like. They were intelligent, competitive, brave, determined, and stood for good instead of bad. I never wanted to be like the gangsters Batman or Superman fought. I was on Batman’s and Superman’s side all the way. They were doing the right thing in my mind and they always did the right thing and I wanted to be just like them.

One thing I learned is that manhood and masculinity are something that must be taught. They don’t come along automatically. Just because a boy grows up doesn’t mean he’s automatically a man. He has to be taught how to be a man and the values of a masculine man. We don’t have much of that going on today in our society, unfortunately. Don’t get me wrong. I’m talking about masculinity here, not machoism. These are not the same thing. The macho man really is ignorant and he disgusts me too just as the feminized man does. He’s reckless and not right bright in his head when it comes down to it. He’s got a chip on his shoulder and he feels the need to always be showing everyone around just how “manly” and “macho” he is. Frankly, I think machoism is just an act or a mask that is worn by some men who have some real serious insecurities about their own manhood. The macho man is usually very aggressive to the point of being insane. He reminds me of some big gorilla locked in a small cage in a zoo that goes off on a hair trigger. Many times he’s a man of dishonor and lacks self discipline. And I’ve found many times that he’s also a man that cannot be trusted because he’s got a big streak of dishonesty in him. That’s not manhood in my mind. That’s not masculinity!

The masculine man is honorable, honest, and self controlled. He’s comfortable with his own manhood and has no need to prove to anyone how manly he is. He’s a man with not just intelligence but wisdom. He’s a man that does what must be done to get things done. He is compassionate yet determined. He’s got reason and a large amount of common sense. He has not need to beat on people or to use and abuse them to boost his own self up in his or others eyes. He knows who he is and what he is and he knows what he is not too. He is one who is firm yet just. His word is more than just empty words. His word is his bond and you can count on that bond every time without fail. He’s a man who works and when he gets off work he goes home and takes care of his family unlike the macho man who ends up in the local tavern after work getting drunk with his fellow macho buddies. The masculine man is noble, forthright, thinks before he speaks or acts, he is focused, and there’s a sense and power about him that this guy is an intelligent and determined MAN. Unlike the macho man, the masculine man has nothing whatsoever to prove to anyone. He’s secure rather than insecure in himself.

I think that American males today, especially white males, need masculine men as their role models. The feminized male just doesn’t work. The macho male just doesn’t work either. I think our males today either know a lot about feminization or machoism and not a frickin thing about masculinity. Why don’t they know? Because no one ever taught them MASCULINITY! Masculinity is not genetic. It’s not acquired. It is LEARNED. And masculinity cannot be taught to another male except by a masculine male. A feminized male cannot teach another male to be masculine. Neither can a macho male. Only a truly masculine male can teach another male how to be a masculine MAN.

Look at a lot of young people today. The prance around with their damned pants hanging half way down their skinny or fat asses everyone to see and they think it’s “cool.” LOL wtf? Do they even realize the message they are broadcasting? I don’t think they do because in jail when a guy wears his pants like that it means that he likes to be on the receiving end of being sodomized. Further, they are all trying to be the macho gangsta and every one of them is a self proclaimed master rapper but most of them can’t even carry a basic tune. And those baseball hats they wear? I’d like to slap them right off of their little stupid pin heads! Masculine MALES don’t wear their caps to the side like “homies.” And the masculine male bends the bill and doesn’t wear it straight because it looks dorky and ignorant. And all of the oversized clothes they wear? Are they trying to hide their bodies? Are they really secretly ashamed to be males? What are they using those oversized clothes to cover up?

Here’s what a lot of people in the world today see in American males. They think we are stupid and weak. They think we are fearful and not manly at all but not women either, so what are we? They laugh at the American male today and mock us and, I’ve got news for you, they are not afraid of us but more than that they DON’T respect us one frickin bit as men or as Americans! How’s that make you feel? Is that what you really want others to think of you? That you’re just some frickin JOKE?

We need to get back to real leadership and masculinity in this society today. We need to stop already with the femininity and machismo horse shit. It’s NOT working! The American male, especially the White American Male, needs to be taught how to be a masculine male, period! Instead of being a dishonorable male, he needs to learn to be an honorable one. We need to teach our males to be PROUD again. Proud of their manhood and proud of their masculinity. And we need to start teaching them how to be real leaders instead of gangsta thugs!

Personally, I think the American male, especially whites, is defeated today. Defeated in his own mind and soul. And I think he knows he’s defeated. That’s not a good thing for our society or for our nation in my opinion. Instead of trying to be like the dork on the bike on the left I think males need to aspire to be like the shirtless guy on the right. That’s the only way we are going to save our country and our society I believe. Males need to be masculine males again. Instead of feeling shame over being male we need to teach them how to be proud of their manhood. We need to teach them that there is NOTHHING WRONG with being a masculine MAN. We need to teach them that when a boy becomes a man he goes out and forges his own way instead of living with mommy and daddy when he’s in his 30s! So how do we do this?

One of the best means for teaching a male how to be a masculine man is by means of ancient knighthood and warriorship. Now you might think you know what those two things mean but chances are that you DON’T really because they are not what you have been taught they are by the mass media and Hollywood movies. For the sake of simplicity let me combine the knight with the warrior and say they are one in the same, which they are for most part if they were/are truly knights and truly warriors.

Hollywood has done a great job at portraying the warrior knight as one skilled in combat and warfare but that’s about all they’ve done. They haven’t bothered to portray them as men of honor and masculinity because, sadly, they most portray them as machoman gorillas. While it is true that the warrior engages in competition and, if required, combat it is also true that there is a whole other side of him that the mass media has failed miserably to show us.

Warriors value masculinity and they detest feminization as well as machoism. Their word is their bond and you can count on their word EVERY time. Warriors have a code and it’s commonly known as a Code of Honor. That code includes things like faith, loyalty, courage, determination, honor, honesty, allegiance to one’s family, friends, and country. It includes things like fidelity, intelligence, and especially wisdom. Ironically, this warrior code is the exact same as the values and virtues of masculinity. The masculine warrior male is firm yet just, compassionate yet not ruled by his emotions. He is determined yet fair, he is wise and intelligent yet not serious all the time either. He is a man with vision and foresight. He is a man with logic and a large degree of just plain old fashioned common sense. He really doesn’t need anyone to govern or rule over him because he governs and rules over himself from the throne of his mind and the altar of his heart. He is self disciplined and self controlled. People who are self governing from within themselves don’t need a lot of laws or rules to make them behave in society and the masculine warrior is this as well. And another big part of that Code of Honor was and is something called BROTHERHOOD.

The masculine warrior sees his fellows as his brothers in manhood and warriorship and he respects and honors them as such at all times. He bonds with his brothers and those bonds are stronger than steel. He literally takes to the bank the idea that “greater is the love of no man than the man who is willing to lay down his own life for that of his brother.” Males have to bond with other males. That’s nature! If males don’t do this then something goes awry in their minds and hearts and they become uncontrollable psychotic machismo’s! Of course we can blame all of the insane homophobia today for this LACK of male bonding in our modern society!

This kind of Code needs to be taught to our males and they need to be taught to value it and just not know it but to also LIVE IT. It’s not only the code of knighthood and the code of the warrior. It’s also the Code of Masculinity which is true and real Manhood. It’s time for the American male to return. Return to masculinity and abandon all of the macho and feminized shit! It’s time to be knights and warriors of honor and manhood again. Wise warriors! Compassionate warriors! Just warriors! Men with vision and men with determination to restore our republic and save our society! Noble warriors and Noble Men!

By:   Robert V. Reich

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